Counselling and Psychotherapy Testimonials

testimonials

"From the start, Zac was a pleasure to deal with, a great listener, and easy to understand his works during sessions.

Since working with Zac I have re-birthed new life into myself, overcame some huge hurdles, and now have a much clearer vision of myself and all aspects that come along in the day to day life.

I would 100% recommend him to anyone who is seeking guidance. Thank you."

"My daughter died suddenly. She had been living abroad, trapped by COVID regulations, and brought her children back as she knew she was unwell. Separated from her husband, she wanted the children to live with us in England and have access to him during holidays.

Her husband however wanted them to live with him abroad, although at first they did not want to see or speak to him. His behaviour before, during and after the funeral was disruptive and rude. He asked for access to the children, which we facilitated, and he persuaded the children to go with him.

Having no rights as grandparents we were unable to stop him and so we supported the children by paying for their education and we visited them regularly. Then their father told us he would be taking the children out of school and emigrating with them to a more distant country, where they are now living.

The trauma and stress that all this caused was immense and affected not only our relationship with the children’s father but also other relationships within our family. After speaking to various friends and trying a couple of alternative counsellors, I was put in touch with Zac who agreed to try to help me to rebalance my life and move forward.

With calm intuition, kindness and empathy, Zac has helped me to stand back a little from the situation and unpick many of the problems. Inevitably we have also looked at other areas of trauma in my life and he has helped me to understand how they have affected me and to relieve me of my unwarranted feelings of failure in various situations and to realise that I cannot solve and perfect situations that are not within my control.

Letting go of frustration and anger has not been easy but arriving in calmer waters has been a relief. There are still issues for me to solve and moving forward will sometimes not be easy but Zac has helped me to get out of the “stuck” situation in which I felt I was stranded and begin to look towards the future.

I am grateful for his help and would happily recommend him to anyone else I knew who I felt could benefit from speaking to him."

"In terms of feedback, it’s been great to explore vulnerability and forgiveness with myself. I’ve really appreciated the resources/docs/podcasts/videos you’ve shared. The one on the nervous system / safety stayed with me, I loved learning about how our bodies and brands react and helped me better understand my responses."

"As a man who doesn't consider himself to be particularly emotional, I was apprehensive to talk to someone who might not ‘get me’ and the issues I face as a man but Zac was so down to earth. I was able to trust him right away. I felt genuinely supported and cared for throughout my sessions with Zac. Caring, intuitive, insightful. Could not recommend highly enough. Thank you Zac!"

"My daughter was incredibly poorly when born and spent a lot of time in hospital. As a new mother, I found this time incredibly difficult and as well as battling ‘baby blues’, I had to deal with the trauma of hospital and surgery.

A year on from this, I found myself constantly reliving the experience and feeling a lot of guilt and anguish. This was my original intention for having therapy as I wanted to feel better about the guilt.

Zac was incredibly easy to talk to and I felt comfortable discussing my feelings. Zac also picked up on times I felt anxious and would do deep breathing with me at the beginning of the session to help me feel calm.

I ended up having 17 sessions with Zac and I was surprised where they lead me. Much more of my childhood and previous life experiences had impacted me more than I knew. I found this very interesting and it has helped me understand who I am and why I feel the way I feel sometimes.

I cannot thank Zac enough."

"You've helped me so much, I cannot tell you how much your caring and understanding means to me, and always will. I didn't know that there was someone out there that would care, understand and appreciate who I really am. I've never had that in my life, ever. So I want to thank you again, from my heart.

For the first time I feel that I’m a person and that I’m worthwhile. I felt I wasn't worthy of being a mother and a wife. I’ve accepted my marriage is gone and I can’t change that. I’m letting it go. I’ve found acceptance. You have been my strength Zac.

My work with you has enabled me to realise what’s happening in my life. I’ve never opened up to a man like this. I’ve seen through the trap I was in and now I can think about me.

My anger has got better. I was in a dark pit. I didn’t know there was a world outside the pit, it was all I’d ever known. I’d never have done it without you Zac. I’ve learned who I am. You’ve made me feel that someone can care and love me because you're listening and understand."

"I would highly recommend Zac to anyone seeking support for relationship issues or challenges faced whilst serving in the Armed Forces. I came to Zac having tried several therapists who offered little more than kind words that I could get from friends and family.

Zac was much different with a hugely relatable personality who offered lots of strategies and tasks I could use in my own time to help overcome my challenges. It was an awesome experience and he is a must to anyone who is unsure whether therapy can work."

"You helped me to start working on something I had been struggling with for a long time. You were patient and kind, and able to offer some wisdom that men are often unable to access. I also appreciated your honestly in sharing your own journey."

"I approached Zac to better understand my role in relationships, in particular, with men. Zac helped me understand how I can cultivate better relationships with other people by cultivating a better relationship with myself, which felt like a missing key to a place I hadn’t yet explored.

The resources and knowledge shared has helped me further understand the human condition and myself. Overall it’s been an extremely beneficial experience and I would certainly recommend it."

"Supportive, compassionate and patient in the process, yet challenging and without judgement."

"I felt free to say what I wanted to."

"It was a great to be helped into a place where I could help myself. Very much took the time to understand and work out what would get me there."

"You listened and understood."

"Hi Zac, Hope you have a peaceful Christmas. I often think of you and the amazing work you did with our son. We are grateful every day to see him happy, confident and resilient, moving forward with his life with renewed vigour.

He has a really lovely partner of over a year, a new job which he loves and an inner strength from knowing he brought himself back from the edge of despair with your help. The therapy he experienced with you has proved so potent, we think it’s really important to highlight the benefits in any way we can. You do amazing work and we thank you for it. Kind regards."

"I hope you're doing well. I was having a reflecting period recently and wanted to thank you for all of your help back in 2020, one of the best decisions I made in seeking out some help and talking it through with you. Life and my mental state is in such a good place since we spoke and I just wanted to pop you a note to say thank you! Take care, and have a great Christmas."

"I was apprehensive to start therapy, I had wanted to start for a year or so and decided it was finally the time. Zac was very prompt and asked me for a time for a quick chat to see if we would work well together and to get an idea of what I was looking to gain from the sessions. We sorted out a session for the following week with clear communication before the start. We went over the limits of confidentiality and what I believed therapy to be.

The first session was quite daunting as I do not share my thoughts and feeling well with others in my life, Zac built trust and a rapport quickly with me and it felt very easy to share what was going on in my life. He did not delve too deep too quickly, and I felt that the first session covered a lot of good ground as well as allowing me to introduce myself and current difficulties without pressure.

I wanted help in stopping destructive behaviours that I unconsciously found myself slipping into, we worked out causes of these issues and more importantly triggers. We worked through various tasks such as talking to the negative version of myself and trying to work out how to get out of negative behavioural and thought cycles.

I had a very negative self-perception and was too hard on myself when things did not go to plan, including not celebrating wins. We worked on how these feelings felt, what I could replace these perceptions with and grounding techniques I could implement when stress and anxiety became increasingly worse.

I realised I was more introverted than I originally perceived and that in trying to be nice and help others I was negatively impacting myself and having these bouts of internal rage that led to reflexive negative behaviours and reactions, like muttering under my breath or being generally rude. I learnt that I need to look at for myself more and as a result over several weeks I found the rage decreasing.

Another part of my journey involved my romantic relationship, due to issues listed above my 5-year relationship came to an end, this was and is challenging and Zac helped me immensely during this time. I knew it was coming and did not know how to deal with the feelings and more scarily the fact that the end of the relationship was for the best for both parties. Zac was flexible in extending my sessions and helping with new hurdles when they arrived.

I ended up completing 10 sessions over 11 weeks, it was a fast process but only because I was ready to talk, and Zac was receptive and spent the time building a strong professional relationship with myself that allowed me to go out of my comfort zone and explore why and who I want to become.

These sessions helped me through the most challenging time of my life, and I am grateful for the help, advice, and knowledge I have developed of my sessions. I would highly recommend Zac to anyone with challenges in their lives. I have the tools to deal with my current challenges and the strength to face difficult feelings which I shied away from before. Thank you, Zac."

"When I first began working with Zac, I had already embarked on my healing journey, but felt like there was a piece missing. This missing piece was the embodiment of my anchored, sacred and mature masculine.

Working with Zac, whose approach is empathic, kind-hearted, empowering and understanding, allowed me to integrate this part of myself more fully. This has had a profound impact on my daily life, in a very practical way, it has transformed how I show up in the world.

From believing in myself and trusting in my own abilities, to standing up for myself and respecting myself - and of course in turn it has made me more able to stand up for others, to believe in them and their gifts. I speak more honestly, come from the heart and express myself more freely, and take decisions that are for my highest good after my work with Zac - which I am infinitely grateful for. "

"After having tried ‘therapy’ unsuccessfully with a few other counsellors in the past, I knew I had to find the right person for me. I feel so very lucky to have found Zac. I knew that I needed some serious help as I honestly couldn’t see a way out of the black hole I was in. I had made the decision to (a) find the right therapist and then (b) fully commit to the process this time.

Right from the start Zac made me feel comfortable and supported. He was able to nudge open doors in my mind kindly and gently. I didn’t even realise these doors were there. I thought my issues were all because of this awful thing that happened to me…. But through a deep and thorough unravelling of my past, Zac helped me to see what had shaped me and my inner core beliefs about myself.

This explained why I hadn’t been able to cope with these awful things ‘life’ had thrown at me, whereas I’d had many friends who had just moved happily along. I just couldn’t. Zac helped me understand why I felt ‘different’ and what had been blocking me from being my authentic self. At times the process of therapy with Zac has been harrowing, it’s been hugely emotional, it’s been funny, uplifting and enlightening.

Zac always made me feel fully supported and understood. Not only does he have a wonderful, easy manner which both relaxes and engages, he is clearly very good technically at what he does. I will always be grateful to Zac. I told him once that I feel like he has given me my life back. The future I want now, finally feels not only possible, but exciting.

I realised that this was going to be a long road, it was - but every step of the journey has felt like a blessing. I’m proud of myself. Finally I can see myself for who I really am. I like me again. Zac made that happen, (although I know he would say that it was me that made it happen, because I ‘committed to the process, showed up and opened up’).

I honestly couldn’t recommend him highly enough. He’s kind, insightful, intelligent (intellectually and emotionally), gently challenging when he needs to be, thought provoking, genuine, warm and when it feels like the whole world is against you, he is there for you and he’s on your side. Wish I could give more than 5 stars!"

"I found Zac to be really helpful and sympathetic when I was going through a difficult time. He was able to help me to reframe challenges which allowed me to move forward in my life. I'd recommend Zac to anyone in a similar situation."

"I first started working with Zac after going through a break-up after having just moved countries together so life was a bit of a mess. He was able to help me through the first few months where we moved on to a better understanding of my vices and was great in reframing and understanding a lot of things that had previously been sore spots and areas of contention in my life.

After 3-4 months the conversations changed to being more about helping me find positions of strength rather than dealing with preconceptions of weaknesses. Felt more like catching up with a mate who is a great listener with a massive heart and a ton of empathy. Thanks Zac, you really helped me learn more about myself in those months than I had for many years beforehand."

"Zac is an amazing therapist. Having suffered from depression and anxieties since l can remember, Zac has helped me find a new sense of perspective which improved my mental health and wellbeing. With his sensitive approach he suggested some simple steps which helped me find calm, a sense of clarity, balance, positivity and self worth.

Everything became clearer. I began writing and visualising where l would like to be in my future hopes and dreams to fulfil myself. After taking small steps I began to rediscover myself as a woman and an artist. Zac discussed core issues with me with great honesty and empathy.

l realised l had to cut out all the negativity in my life. Zac became an anchor for me at the right moment during a difficult time in my life. My job was very stressful, it completely took over my life and l became ill with work related stress.

I realised l had to cut this negativity out of my life. I finished my job. I continued instead to completely focus on being the artist l am. I suddenly adopted a presence of being l haven't felt before. I feel more motivated, calm, positive and a stronger person for this.

My paintings have developed, family life has strengthened alongside my friendships . I have become a new person, rediscovering myself and my identity as a woman and artist. I now remember the things l most value old and new in my life. I would highly recommend Zac to everyone."

"I would like to express my gratitude for all you have done for my son. At a time in his life when he lost all meaning for life and couldn’t communicate with his friends, his parents or his extended family, you were a shining beacon guiding him, helping him, listening to him and ultimately encouraging him back to participate in life once more.

Looking back it’s been a privilege and a humbling experience to see him dig deep, build resilience and drag himself back from despair, but at the time it was so frightening. As a parent I suppose I always thought it was my role to fix things but parenting boys who are now men has forced me to step back, to practice detachment and let them forge their own way forward.

He has benefitted immeasurably from his sessions with you and I feel he is so much better equipped to cope with life in the future. I feel so joyful to see him smiling again, rediscovering his friends, being more open and stepping out to greet life. Words can’t really convey the depth of gratitude we feel for your support of him, but please know you have helped him to find purpose once again."

"Zac, thank you so much for your kind words. Finding someone to speak to, be honest, expose vulnerabilities and weaknesses, is very difficult for men and especially for me. There are very few who I would be able to relate to. Your rational, considered and empathetic advice allowed me to calibrate and move forward with clarity and direction. For this I will always be appreciative."

"My marriage was in trouble. I wanted to regain control when I saw red and learn to talk. I've lost the black cloud and the weight that was on me. I feel freer. I can have conversations with my wife about things that matter without going off on one. I can be frazzled with work but not blow up.

In terms of what I've been through professionally in the past few months, if we hadn't done this work together it would have been a shocker. Seeing you has helped with my leadership at work too. I'm more aware, sensitive, the blinkers aren't on so much.

I'm more in tune with my team and can handle criticism. The old "on" version of me took it the wrong way and would have said "fuck off". I'm more comfortable in my own skin. The sense I used to have about being unfairly blamed has gone. Thank you Zac for opening up and sharing so much about your own life and being real with me."

"I'm living! I'm actually living and it's weird. Those experiences are in the past and now this is the present. There have been so many synchronicities. I feel free, on my own two feet. I couldn't have asked for a better start back into my career.

The cycle hasn't been broken with my son and my ex, but I have taken responsibility for my own healing. I will be there for him by doing what I need to do to heal, and for now that means I'll be away. I don't know for how long. If it had been another therapist who wasn't spiritually aware I don't think this would have happened.

You get it. You drew this out of me. I wouldn't have broken through to this place of authentic living without you. I'm not going to let anyone unconscious affect my life anymore. For the first time in my life, I'm not in constant fear. It feels like a brotherhood with you.

I was coming to conclusions myself and doing the rewiring, you were flicking the light switch to give me the full understanding to move forward, else I'd have been stuck. I'd been trying to do this for years and in 12 sessions with you I'm in a different place."

"Our work has been vital to me and made such an impact in my life and my daughter's. It was nice to show her to you today - partly because she's such a huge part of me. But also to now say, thank you, for she is also benefiting from your investment in time with me."

"Zac was prompt in phoning which took me off guard. This is the push I needed as I've suffered for 47 years, tried everything now on 18 tablets a day. My GPS told me a year ago there's nothing more they can do for me. This was a huge step for me.

I felt Zac understood everything I said he spoke like a friend and put me at ease with just one phone call and this was only a call back. We arranged a time program to whatever I felt comfortable with. I felt that after all these years finally I had someone who listened to me and totally understood what I am going through. I now look forward to our sessions as I felt so at ease speaking to him. Really would recommend Zac."

"I‘d always thought therapy was for others and doubted I’d ever feel the need for it. Through life I’ve felt emotionally secure and at peace, but 2020 bought admission of an alcohol addiction from my husband of 30 years, isolation from family and friends due to the pandemic, the loss of a job and the breakdown of a cherished relationship with my pregnant daughter.

By the end of the year I felt emotionally lost and and so in January 2021 I made a New Year's resolution to reconnect with me. I finally put therapy on my to do list and made a call to Zac. From our first interaction I felt completely at ease.

It was cathartic telling my story and working through what had brought me to that point. Zac gave me space to explore my feelings and helped me navigate my emotions. He was just the person I needed - someone to talk to outside of my life, someone with no expectations of who I should be and someone who listened and gently guided without judgment.

By the end of our sessions I’d found an inner stillness that had eluded me for months and with that I found me again. I’m so glad I reached out - thank you Zac for enabling such a truly positive and healing experience."

"I didn't know how to step away from my work mentality having retired. I was spiralling down, making mistakes and blaming myself, always saying the wrong thing and not understanding why, and I was being a nasty person.

My confidence was dropping away. With you I've understood the causes and flags of my outbursts, which were pushing the people I love away, especially my wife. I'm feeling relieved. Before I had no space to reflect, I had things going round in my head. I was self-analysing and self-criticising too much.

I didn't know how to think and it was just getting worse. With you I had logical and pragmatic conversations which made sense to me, and enabled me to put my old way of approaching problems down for a while.

You gave me the opportunity to open up, understand the three Fs [fight-flight-freeze] and work out what was fuelling my behaviour and put it right. We kept it simple. By the third week the fog had gone and it was down to the communication between us — you had the mindset to understand how I think, so thank you Zac."

"Zac, you will be pleased to know I am no longer working for Xxxx and am taking time to find myself again. My aim is to rekindle my spark for life which seemed to be sucked out from me a long time ago. I feel I still have a long way to go, it is lonely at times, but I am enjoying the journey so far. Keep doing your good work, it is much appreciated. Thanks again."

"I can't imagine sticking with it with anyone else. You've changed my life, met me on an intellectual level to make a deep connection. You're brilliant at this. I wouldn't have done the work in a different situation."

"You have a natural relaxed manner and give off a feeling of someone on a mission. It's helped me see what I value most in my life, how I work as an artist, and what I need to be OK. Talking to a man, there was an immediate connection which put me at ease.

The videos and what you wrote on your website were very interesting, I connected with the idea of men not having a voice and being lost. In the past we'd go down the pub or let it out in other ways, violent ways. You have really helped me. You haven't stopped me or talked over me, you were never shocked and you knew how to read me and make silences count."

"Zac introduced me to Polyvagal Theory so that I could understand where my panic was coming from and get familiar with the physical signs such as a tight chest. Now when I feel that fight or flight response coming on I'm able to detach and observe rather than getting swallowed up and acting out in destructive ways.

I thought I couldn't do relationships but I'm in a new relationship now and it feels healthy. I feel more in control of my emotions. I'm not getting the usual anxieties this time or the jealousy. That's never happened before. I used to feel insecure, not good enough.

Now I feel more centred, more self-worth, and I'm better at forgiving myself and not thinking of myself as out of control. When I started working with Zac I didn't know what to expect, I had been told for years I should get therapy, and I contacted him when I'd reached rock bottom. I didn't expect the work to go so deep. I explored my childhood with Zac which helped me learn to be more accepting of who I am and my human vulnerabilities. I feel like I understand myself at a deeper level and I am in a better place."
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"I knew about person centred therapy as I had trained in it but I had never experienced it done like this, so powerfully. I went through a massive transition with Zac and I wouldn't have made it without him. I wouldn't have been able to break through the barriers.

It's been a massive game-changer, with huge changes in my life. I now have everything I set out for in what seems like the blink of an eye. If someone had said to me in January, "This is where you'll be in September," it wouldn't have seemed realistic.

I'd hate to think where I'd be now without Zac. It's difficult to express how life altering it's been. I feel I've achieved these things myself but everything Zac did within the person centred model has transformed my life and enabled me to own it for myself too."
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"Stress hit me like a ton of bricks and I found myself at breaking point. Zac took me on a very significant spiritual journey exploring the deepest and darkest depths of my mind through psychotherapy and music therapy sessions which helped me find my way to lightness again.

Before entering therapy with Zac, I had lost interest in my life's vocation of writing music and was experiencing a block in my creative process. Zac's empathetic, honest and non-judgemental nature was present throughout our sessions which made me feel comfortable sharing my feelings with him.

It felt liberating to be this vulnerable with a therapist and this process opened new doors for me. This led on to the crucial work of writing an album's worth of songs together which we plan on recording professionally in the future. Zac's background in journalism and creative writing meant that I could relate to him on a creative and emotional level which as a musician is at the core of my being."
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"Oh dear, this is difficult, especially to avoid a bunch of cliché’s. So, overall a big success. I’ve made loads of progress and I’m aware of the things that I have to keep working on. And also, I accept most things about me and I don’t feel the need to change it all.

So, well done to me for moving in this direction and thank you to Zac for guiding me through this process. Zac is good at picking up the various strands of my stories and weaving them into a meaningful story, which I can then work on. I have felt welcome to return to each session and have looked forwards to them.

Zac has been reassuring and has clearly been on “my side”. And now I’m going solo and I’m optimistic about making the most of everything."
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"I like the fact that you remain impartial, so I trust you to give a balanced view. I like that you have a good balance between detachment, so I can be honest, yet I feel like you do actually care about how I am. You’re not fluffy or waffly, but you are kind.

Video calls were actually easier and better than I’d imagined - it doesn’t take long to forget that you’re not actually in the same room. It’s kind of like watching a foreign film - once you get into it you stop noticing the subtitles.

Once you get into the session you stop noticing you’re not in the same room. If the film is good, you really enjoy it and, as the counselling is good, you still get a lot out of it and it is still incredibly helpful."
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"Two or three months ago my future looked terrible. I'm doing better than I thought I would be. I wouldn't have predicted this. I was ready to avoid dating for years but that's changed. I've left a job that was holding me back and gone into one that is feeding me and makes more sense long term. This is a new feeling for me."
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"I started sessions with Zac over a year ago. I decided that I needed help and wanted to commit fully to the counselling process, I just needed to find the right person (after two previous failed attempts). Zac made me feel comfortable straight away with his warmth and kindness.

I felt that he connected with both me and my story. He was genuinely interested and committed to the process. He has a way of caring and guiding that has enabled me to fully open up and explore for myself where my problems stem from.

This has been a revelation to me and is not what I originally thought at all. I have only discovered this through sticking with the process long term. I am finally starting to see my way through. At long last I am beginning to understand why I have not felt able to cope with what life has thrown at me.

Through putting my faith in Zac, and the clarity I now have, I can start to put all the pieces back together, but this time, in the right order. It’s been worth every penny, what I am gaining through this process is priceless to me.

I couldn’t recommend Zac highly enough. Either face to face or online, personally I find it makes no difference to the outcome of the session. I’m not there yet but with Zac’s help I now have faith in myself that I can do this and am starting to glimpse a future that I can look forward to."
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"I have to say I have thoroughly enjoyed (the right word?!) the experience and meetings with you, and have found the time useful."
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"My previous therapists were too soft and flakey for me. You have challenged me in just the right ways and I feel like we're working together, which I have never felt before. Over the past year my life has changed for the better or, rather, I've changed, and I know it's down to the work I've been doing with you."
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"I didn't understand why I was behaving destructively and I needed to get a handle on what was driving it before my baby came along. I did the work with Zac quickly. I hadn't looked at my past in that way before. He supported me as I understood my childhood. I took what I needed from my past and then let go so I could protect my partner and child from my demons."

"Zac has a way of being there for you. He was there for me once a week for six months and changed my life. Best investment I ever made."

"It hasn’t been what I expected. I never felt this understood before. I didn’t understand myself."

"For years I’d been carrying around things that weighed me down but I wouldn’t look at them, it was too scary. I hated feeling vulnerable. Zac gave me the patience and safety I needed to break through at last."

“Through your challenging questions and gentle support you helped me reevaluate my priorities and face the blocks that I had been avoiding — the issue was larger than I realised.”

"You've been able to tease from me why I get frustrated at work, and I've realised I've been feeling disappointed. I've been able to evaluate things and conclude that there's nothing wrong with me, it's more about my environment. I've got perspective and feel happier, stronger, younger. Video calls took some getting used to for me but worked really well."

"I have found our sessions very open and honest. You are patient and forgiving, which creates a trusting environment. Our sessions became a necessary staple in my weekly routine breaking the usual stress cycle. Over time I saw vast improvement in my health, outlook and confidence. Thank you."

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"Oscar Wilde’s ‘We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars’ comes to mind. Zac and my fellow fathers helped me adjust my perspective to see my situation in a new light."

If it had been another therapist who wasn't spiritually aware I don't think this would have happened. You get it. You drew this out of me. I wouldn't have broken through to this place of authentic living without you. I'm not going to let anyone unconscious affect my life anymore.

For the first time in my life, I'm not in constant fear. It feels like a brotherhood with you. I was coming to conclusions myself and doing the rewiring, you were flicking the light switch to give me the full understanding to move forward, else I'd have been stuck. I'd been trying to do this for years and in 12 sessions with you I'm in a different place."

"The sense of connection and feeling understood worked especially well."

"This has been a 12 week journey of reflection and self discovery with a host who brings a wealth of professional experience and a personal dimension, and a group of dads who have been through fire and who helped themselves rise again and be their best for their children. A terrific support network. Thank you Zac."

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"Before I thought my priority was the kids, but I've realised I need to be here so I can help them. I was suicidal. I haven't seen my youngest child for 10 months. One day I am going to see that child. I want to be positive and focus more on myself to make sure that happens."

"What worked especially well? The ability to cognitively gauge my state and falsify negative thoughts by understanding how the mind generates them in defence mechanism."

"Group facilitated well and excellent camaraderie experienced. Lots of takeaway material to refer to. Good balance of academic based sharing / explanations and open group discussion. The course offers useful tools and explanations to help manage a challenging phase in our life journey. The support network acquired and reference material have and will continue to be a source of strength."

"I wish I invested in this right at the beginning, every penny spent on myself to improve me as a father."

"I joined the course because I felt rather alone, struggling with being separated and not seeing much of my kids. I wasn't sure if my case was bad enough to belong in the group. But the day after I decided to join my wife changed the locks on the house, mentioned the police for the first but not the last time, and my world fell apart.

The individual counselling and group work formed a safe container for the worst weeks of my life. I realised I was not alone, and that there are some things I can do to at least influence the outcome of the rollercoaster ride I had been forced onto.

I wish I could say that my whole external situation improved. In fact it did change, but significantly for the worse as my separated wife became more and more hostile the more reasonable I was being. But I changed on the inside.

I realised I had not been caring for myself or enjoying myself. I understood that I was not somehow defective or a total failure. And I started to live a little. I thought for the first time about what I actually wanted to do for fun and just did it. This was utterly liberating and exhilarating.

The men I met have become lifelong friends . And I actually wish I had met Zac and learnt his wisdom even earlier on in the process of the implosion of my marriage. You might think you are doing quite well but if you are at all worried about conflict with your separated partner, or are feeling unsure of how to navigate the minefield of untangling a family then this is the course for you."

"The experience of the Ceasefire course will stay with me for the rest of my life. It really helped me to gain insight into not only the situation with my ex partner and children, but more broadly in all areas of my life.

The empathy and understanding of both myself and others increased ten fold, and I am so pleased I took the plunge and engaged in this amazing programme."

"I really appreciated being in a place where I could talk about these very tough issues with other dads in similar situations and where there was room to talk about feelings and strategies and not just one or the other.

That you are in a similar situation as facilitator was very useful too as you could relate to all of us and us to you too."

"What worked especially well? The ability to cognitively gauge my state and falsify negative thoughts by understanding how the mind generates them in defence mechanism.""

I love it when Zac explains the theory and biological reasons why we behave in a certain way, which helps me understand why I do the same thing over and over again. I find these incredibly fascinating and helpful. I think all separated dads need a support group.

While the FNF groups are good for actionable advice (but no emotions), I feel there needs to be an emotional support group for separated dads. We are never given the opportunity to be vulnerable and show or even explore emotions – so this gives us the safe platform to do so."

"I've managed to understand how to open up in these sessions. It's not just me alone, it's with others experiencing similar feelings. It really helped me to understand myself. Thank you Zac, I needed these sessions to understand."

"We narrowed down the problem to two things: look after number one and find a way of doing it that works for me; and work on accepting what is hard and makes me unhappy, finding a way of living with sadness, grief and loss."

"I've enjoyed the grounding exercises and the feeling of belonging in a small, tight group where we all understand and respect each other. Life often feels overwhelming, there is fear and a lot of stress, so the group became safe place for me in the week."

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